Bahasa Cinta Perempuan : Penelitian Fenomenologik Hal yang Membuat Istri Merasa Dicintai

I Made Yudi Permana, Edwin Adrianta Surijah, Nyoman Trisna Aryanata

Abstract


ABSTRACT

The research aimed to find out the essential things which make wives feel loved. It inspired by the Five Love Languages theory from Chapman (2010). This study involved 50 married women using a phenomenologic qualitative study. As a result, this study found five things that make the wife feel loved. Those grounded Love Languages are Communication, Receiving Gift, Family time, Acts of Service, and Character and Temperament. Furthermore, this study also found another theme beyond the wife's grounded Love Languages and labeled it as Uncategorized. Three of the love languages found in this study (communication, family time, and character and temperament) are unique and different from the original Chapman's theory. This finding will influence further study in understanding love languages in the Indonesian context.


ABSTRAK

Penelitian ini bertujuan untuk menemukan hal apa yang paling membuat seorang istri merasa dicintai, terinspirasi dari teori Five Love Languages Chapman (2010). Peneliti melibatkan 50 subyek perempuan yang telah menikah dengan menggunakan metode kualitatif fenomenologik. Hasil dari penelitian ini, peneliti menemukan lima hal yang membuat istri merasa dicintai. Kelima bahasa cinta istri temuan dari penelitian ini adalah: Communication, Receiving Gift, Family Time, Acts of Service serta Karakter & Temperamen. Selain lima temuan ini, peneliti juga menemukan satu tema pokok diluar bahasa cinta istri yaitu Uncategorized. Dari lima temuan peneliti, tiga diantaranya merupakan bahasa cinta khas dari istri di Indonesia diluar teori Chapman yaitu Communication, Family Time serta Karakter & Temperamen. Temuan ini akan membawa dampak bagi penelitian selanjutnya dalam memahami bahasa cinta pada konteks Indonesia.


Keywords


Wife’s love language, Married women, Qualitative Approach, phenomenologic, ,bahasa cinta istri, perempuan yang telah menikah, metode kualitatif, fenomenologik

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DOI: https://doi.org/10.21107/personifikasi.v11i1.7291

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